This page was created by me, QueenBee. Who am I? What does QueenBee represent? I am Barbara Bedenfield (Bee) and yes I am treated like a queen at my house. Ok don't be hating but maybe try appreciating. Psalm 139:14 says I am fearfully and wonderfully made. We all have something to share.
Monday, September 28, 2009
Chivalry is not dead
But then a thing happened and my hubby had me laughing hysterically. I gave blood for the very first time yesterday. There was a blood mobile at our church and hubby asked me why don't I give blood...I hesitated and said...well I've never given blood before. He asked me if I wanted him to come and hold my hand....I said no, but I really did want him to. So he went inside the church and when I walked into the van, the people were asking me questions if I had eaten breakfast yet. I told them I ate a cup of yogurt so they flooded me with sprite and a granola bar and said for me not to do anything for the rest of the day. After church, hubby saw me sitting in the chair in the foyer waiting on him. He asked if I was ready to go, I said yeah. We walked to the car and instead of him helping me in the car yesterday, he hopped in the driver seat and I just stood by the door. (He knew I was being funny)
He said, "are you getting in?" Laughing I said, "I just gave blood and now I'm cripple for a few hours and I can't put pressure on this arm to get in the car." So he laughed and was just about to get out the car to come and help me get in the car, but my daughter said, "I'll help her in." That was touching but I didn't really need help. I was just messing with hubby because we joke like that....I went ahead and let daughter help me in the car anyway. We went home and hubby gave up his recliner for me. He then went in the kitchen and started cooking. He told me to rest and just enjoy the day. So for all you hopeless romantics out there, don't give up hope. Your husband will come around.....in one way or another. Until next time.
Lovingly yours,
Thursday, September 24, 2009
The calm
I know that if Jesus was mocked, ridiculed, betrayed....how then would I expect myself to be any higher than he? I mean, He is the King of Kings for goodness sake and if I am made in the image of Him, do I expect I would get some type of better treatment? Nah, don't think so. I told her that whatever it was that God has my back. I told her that people gonna talk if you do good and they gonna talk if you do bad. Pleasing folks is not even in my repertoire....and I, yes I, have done things in my life that I'm not proud of, but I have only one judge, one jury, one redeemer, one Savior and as long as He has forgiven, that's all I need right there.
Lovingly yours,
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Curiosity killed the cat
Monday, September 21, 2009
A change will come, BUT not today
So in my very sweet and loving voice, I say, "Honey, can you please move your stuff off my dresser and put it with your stuff?" He says that he will but was just feeling kinda lazy and will move it later. Later to me meant by the time I got off work the following evening...later has turned into 3 weeks. I kindly remove his stuff and put it on his side, but somehow, more junk ended up on my side. You have got to be kidding me! I asked him what was the big deal in him putting his stuff on my side. He said it was just closer. I wasn't asking him to move it out of state, just across the freaking room. Why are there empty medicine bottles, old appointment cards after he's gone to the doctor and other stuff just taking up mass? He says, "Oh you can just throw that stuff away." No honey, YOU CAN JUST THROW THAT STUFF AWAY.
I feel like Old MacDonald. Except for a quack quack here, He's got stuff here, stuff there, here a stuff, there a stuff, everywhere stuff stuff. It doesn't just stop at the bedroom either. There is stuff on the couch and I can see if it was all nice and neat - Ba humbug! You ever seen someone who is wearing spandex and their behind is way too big for it - that's how I feel about hubby's stuff ----it's all a hot mess. Well he keeps telling me that he is going to either move it or throw it away. I don't even ask anymore, I'm tired. I just look at it and shake my head. Then he'll say, "I know, I know." All I know is that a change will come, but if I'm expecting it today, it just ain't gonna happen.
Lovingly yours,
Friday, September 18, 2009
Don't try to be like the Bedenfields
I said it cost me $1.49...he then had to comment that he can't believe I spent a whole buck and two quarters on a sausage biscuit when Burger King had one for 69 cents. I said that I didn't want BK, I wanted just what I paid for. He said, "Oh I would never pay that much for a sausage biscuit. How do you afford to do it on a salary working here?" I wasn't trying to be ugly but does it matter how much I paid for my food. Some people I know have fancy houses, fancy cars and all that good stuff, but baby, I can't try to live the life of nobody else. I'm just thankful that I have a house to live in and not living under the bridge. If anybody comes to my house, and it's not clean enough for your standards, you have two options. You can either clean it the way you want it and I'll be fine with that or you can leave. My family and I live the way we want to live and we don't have to give justification as to why we do the things we do or don't do.
Some people may can afford to eat out every day, The Bedenfields can't and we don't try to. I'm happy that some of you can do that. But just because we do things one way and you do things your way doesn't mean my way nor your way is wrong. Don't misconstrue things. Everything that glitters ain't gold. Don't try to do it how we do it. You have no idea what we even had to go through to make it happen. Just be you and you'll find yourself a lot happier than trying to be like someone else.
Lovingly yours,
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Let bygones be bygones
My youngest sister has been telling me for 14 years that she is gonna leave her husband because she can't stand him and for things he has done. I'm not gonna tell her to leave him but if you're gonna do it, do it and then be done with it. Forgive and then move on. That is why I can't understand when I hear people say that haven't spoken with their mom or dad or anybody in years because of something someone said and upset them. I'm like, so you're holding a grudge and getting an ulcer all at the same time. What is the point in staying mad at someone for years? Move on and bury that crap. It's ok to get angry, God got angry. But he didn't stay angry. Get angry, but sin not. Stop holding on to stuff that is doing us no good. Stop bringing up stuff that we "used to do."
Sometimes it may take you to be the bigger person and apologize even if it's not your fault. WHAT!!! Is QueenBee off her rocker? Not just yet. I have this friend and we got upset with something a few years ago. Whoever was in fault, I don't even remember, but I called her and said that I was sorry that we haven't talked and I wanted to know what could I do. You know she thanked me for that because she said she wanted to apologize but just didn't know how. Ok, we let it go and for the life of me, I don't even know what had us both in such a rumble. Life is so darn short. Embrace the moment. Let the dead stay buried. Forgive, love, laugh and let bygones be bygones.
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
Hair today, gone tomorrow
There are two women I work with. One has tons of facial hair and the other one has a moustache that is fit for a king. Personally, I couldn't do it. I would either have to get waxed, have electrolysis done or just shave it. So what if it grows back thicker; I would have me a stash of hair removal just like I keep a stash of pads and tampons. The hair would have to be gone every single morning before I walked out the door.
So one of the ladies I work with, her facial hair is very noticeable. I try not to stare at it when she comes to my office, but the makeup that is overlaying it makes my eyes wander in different directions. I keep telling myself not to make a face because my expression will surely show. As far as the other lady with the moustache....OH MY GOSH.... it has grown over her lip and it is all scraggly. She had better not go to sleep at my house because I will make the razor do what it do.
Monday, September 14, 2009
Your allowances have been met
I allow you to live here
I allow you to sleep here
I allow you to eat here
I allow you to bathe here
I allow you to get dressed here
I allow you to ride in my car
I allow you to speak at times when you're not even spoken to - MUST I GO ON?
And then my daughter says, "Oh mom, you're too funny, I mean can we have it in payment." Sure thing kid, here you go:
I pay the electric bill - are the lights not on in their rooms?
I pay the water bill
I pay the car note and insurance in order to allow you to be chauffeured around
I pay the cable bill, mainly for hubby and me, but heck everybody can use it
I pay the mortgage that gives privileges to allow you to live here.....MUST I GO ON?
And the last thing I heard was Ugggggghhhhh!!! Ok, hopefully they get the point.
Lovingly yours,
Friday, September 11, 2009
Like Mother, like daughter
So there it was, an out of place bottle on my dresser. I know it wasn't me because I personally feel that everything has a place. I went closer to check out the misplaced item. My perfume bottle had been moved. That darn peskitty teenager!!! I went up to her and started sniffing her. She said, "Mother, umm, what are you doing?" I said, "Oh wow, you smell nice, what are you wearing?" She tells hubby, "I think she's on to me." Ok they thought it was funny and so I told 16 year old to stay out of my stuff. If she ask me can she use it, the answer might be no, it might be yes. But to go into my stuff and then not to put it back just makes me qwiver in me timbers.
But wait...there's more. Hubby is part culprit of this scandalous operational endeavor. { (I know yall like me using these big words, right!! :-) } 16 year old wanted to wear one of my watches. I wasn't home, so she had the audacity to ask hubby if she could wear one. He said that she could. I told him that he don't authority privileges to tell her that she can get my stuff. He said that he just knew I wouldn't mind. Well if you think that, my thing is to leave my stuff alone. I then have to go to her and ask for my stuff back. She doesn't care about her own things so I know she isn't going to care about nobody elses. She just handles everything all rough and has this nonchalant attitude like, "Oh well, if it breaks, ok."
I know you are probably saying that it is just stuff, material things. My thing is this: if we don't take care of what we have, how we gonna be able to take care of bigger things. We ask God for a house, but can't even take care of an apartment. He said that if we are faithful over a few things, He would make us ruler over many.
Thursday, September 10, 2009
Come and grab your grace
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Time for letting go
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Children learn what they live
Monday, September 7, 2009
A Reunion and then some
And then, there was also another reunion going on that same reunion. The past youth choir members, along with present members, had a reunion also where we all got in the choir and sang together. Now, I will admit that I can't sing but my parents made me sing in the choir as a child. I wasn't going to get up there with them, but my sister told me that it would be fun, so I did. Since I didn't get in to town until Friday night, that was my only rehearsal and on Friday night, we sounded like a bunch of horses pretending to be pigs. We sucked big time. I didn't know how this was going to turn out on Sunday. We were going to have to expect a miracle.....and a miracle did happen. Sunday morning we all had on our black and white, and once the musician and drummer got their stuff together, we sounded like professionals. I surprised myself. We got standing ovations and everything. I did have fun at both reunions but thank Jesus it is all over.That is me 4th from the left with the short hair cut on the second row. The 3rd from the left is my sister and the 5th from the left is my other sister.