Have you been tried in the fire?

I can't remember who sings that song but I love it. When I was younger, I didn't understand what it was trying to say; but as I grew, not only mentally, but spiritually as well, I was then able to comprehend "being tried in the fire." While attending Sunday Church School on yesterday, one of my elderly church members came up to me and said something to me. She said that she hope I don't get offended when she calls me baby and sugar or child. She continued and said that when she says that, the receiving end will say, "I'm grown. I'm not your baby." This elderly woman, I'll call her Grandma, said that she doesn't mean any harm when she says that. Well I told Grandma that it didn't offend me when she calls me that because you have to have been tried in the fire in order to hold your tongue on certain things. I told Grandma that if a person has to say, "I am grown" that means they haven't grown. You have to grow in more ways than one in order to be grown; but it's when you become an adult that one will truly know he or she has grown. That was my own opinion. Even though Grandma is up in years past me, she sat and listened and said that made her day. When it was time to go, she said, "Bye sugar." I said, "Bye Grandma" and that just made her laugh so and her laughter made me laugh. Have you been tried in the fire? And did you come through as pure gold?