Being grown vs. being an adult

I had a conversation with my niece who is 18 and she talked about how she was grown and she could basically do whatever she wants.  I overheard a conversation where there were several youth standing outside the church and when an adult came and asked them to come in, one of them, also 18, said that she was grown and could come in when she wanted to. Stuff like that irks me. There is a difference in being grown vs. being an adult. There are four year olds who are grown with their smart mouths because parents allow them to talk any kind of way and think it is cute. Well, it is not.

My perception is this: If you have to tell people you are grown, it is most likely you are not. My opinion is that if you are grown, that means that you have learned some type of lesson and matured from a result of it. You have grown from the childish you into a more responsible you. Being 18 does not, and I repeat, does not make you grown. Their frontal lobes aren't even fully developed yet and won't be until they are like 25, so their thinking ability is still in a childlike stage. They want to be an adult but do not want the responsiblity in being an adult. Why in the ham and cheese do young people think that when they turn 18, they can go around and do whatever they want to do! Shoot, I can't even do what I want to do. I can't stay out and hang with my friends all day and night and never come home. Really?

Being an adult deals with responsiblity and pays their own bills, and gets the heck out of your parents house, and oh, did I say pay their own bills. They don't sit around and proclaim how bored they are. They buy groceries and do things for their parents, if they do live at home without being told, like washing dishes and sweeping and mopping. Did I say they pay bills! Just checking. When people say they are grown, I look at them and say, "I don't see it." Why would one even think that just because they say that, that no one can tell them what to do anyway? Duh, even adults have to deal with people telling them what to do, mainly because adults have jobs they have to go to, whether you leave your house and work or work from home. I really wanna slap the life out of someone the next time they tell me they are grown. Would that be childish of me! Just wondering.

~QUEENBEE~