Our 17 year old daughter has literally lost her mind. I don't even know where to begin so I'll just jump in with both feet. The child thinks she has some kind of "senior status" around the house now that she is in 12th grade. She speaks now of those under her as underclassmen or underdogs. I told her that she is no better than nobody else and this is a lesson that has been taught to her when she was way young. So now, all of a sudden, she feels inferior to everything. Her conversation to her friends is, "They must not know.....I am a Senior!" Every evening when she comes in from school, she feels that she must do something to her hair before doing her homework. So I asked her what was up with that. She said that she has to condition it every night so it won't break off. I have never heard of that.
When I come in after work or school, she is on the phone. What kind of person can't even acknowledge that I am home after being gone all day? So as soon as I walk in the house, and if she is on the phone, I tell her to get off the phone. I asked her what does she and her BFF have to talk about so much and they just saw each other at school? She tells me that I just don't understand the life of a senior. Oh I understand alright but her tail ain't gonna be on no phone every day talking about the same crap. I also told her that anybody can go to the 12th grade, but everybody can't graduate. Hubby and I constantly tell her that she needs to be more focused than she already is on her studies and stop trying to have a social life beyond what is sociable.
I came in from school and our daughter was in the bathroom on the phone standing in the mirror and then had a comb in her hair. Ok, so she gonna try to comb her hair with the phone in the other hand?? I didn't care if she was talking to Moses or Job, I immediately told her to get off the phone and do some school work. [Don't make me be like my mom was when my sisters and I were still home, and it was summer, when she took the phones and unplugged them from the wall and put them in her trunk every day she left for work and then plugged them back in when she came home. I ain't no killa but don't push me (words from Tupac).]
Our daughter then brought up the subject about Prom.......which is like next year.....in April....and you want to talk about Prom? She wants to know how should she wear her hair and her nails and where were we going to go and pick out a dress. (Excuse me, while I stop staring at her like a deer in headlights). I don't know what I will be doing next weekend and you want to talk about prom??? Child please!
Lovingly yours,
HAHAHA @ Tupac quote! These kids.. girl don't get me started!! I have to sympathize with the phone thing.. i was and always have been a phone fanatic. My mom did the same thing took all the phones! I think at one time she even bought a special lock so we couldn't use them, haha! Go get her Mamma!!
ReplyDeleteLMAO!
ReplyDeleteI was in her position just a few years ago ( I may still be there now ) so I can relate.
It helped when my mom explained things to me about my actions from a more emotional stand point.
When my mom told me that she would like to spend time with me, I wanted to spend time with her. But when she would say "You aint going out!" I was defensive.
Prom is the best day in her life!! Just give her any answer so she can feel like u care. LOL
Aren't all teenage girls like that when they hot a certain age?
ReplyDeleteHope you are well...sorry i haven't 'stopped' by for a while...its been a bit chaotic here.