The Hype

I am not a sports person and I don't watch any news, but when you hear the hype about this and this, you tend to want to find out what is the hype about. The media, whether it's social media or the news, or just talk tends to focus on Ray Rice hitting his then fiance and knocking her out. I'm not one to go and find out what the real story is, but I will put my two cents in about the whole thing. Just from watching a small smidgen of the video and hearing that he knocked her the slap out, let's first examine this with a microscope. I can't say that Ray has hit her before, I don't know. I can't say that she (Ray's wife) hit him before, I don't know. But what my eyes saw is that she hit him first and provoked him. I know I can hear the rants in the background saying that no man should put his hands on a woman.....well no woman should put her hands on a man either. I'm not condoning domestic violence, but if you get me to the point of anger where I want to hit you, then somebody needs to step up and step out. I'm not saying Ray was wrong or right, but I'm only speaking from QueenBee's opinion. If somebody, anybody, the gardener, the security guard, the person who takes up tickets at the movies, the maid, the babysitter, the pastor hit me, you best believe that I am hitting him, her, it, them back. It doesn't matter if what I said to them made them want to hit me, then you have a right to get hit back.

Another thing that is such hype is that not only did she get knocked the slap out, she went on and married him, so therefore, that means he did this and I accept it is basically what she said without saying it. I don't see what the big deal is if that was her choice. Not my choice though. But if she chose that life, then that's her. I've seen people who have been through domestic violence and they, whether it be man or woman, have chosen to stay for different reasons that I can't even fathom. Some stay for love, others stay for security. Well why would a woman stay for security if she just got beat up by the man she suppose to love. The answer is simple. They fear of having to go out and take care of themselves because someone has always been there to do it for them. They fear having to go out and get a job and struggle. They stay because they are comfortable, and having to pack up everything you have and look for somewhere else to live is just unheard of...to them.

I would prefer to just suck it up and do things my way if I had a husband or boyfriend who beat me up. All it would take is one time. That's what the real hype should be about. Stand on your own two feet. I know it sounds easier said than done, but I would rather find me somewhere else to go for a peace of mind and not having to sleep with one eye open. So ladies and men, just keep your hands to yourself unless you caressing me to give me a massage and holding me in your arms. If not, you hit me and live to tell about, you best believe I'm coming at you with every force in my body. Have a marvelous ending to your week.

QUEENBEE